Kisses

I interned at a company (actually it is the same one that I am working at now) in Summer 2011 and met this incredibly cool girl named A. She was studying sociology or something of the sort at Columbia and used to come in with all types of literature. She used to send me papers on gender equality. Famous short stories. Poems that made me envious of the authors who penned them. I’m still infatuated with this one. And still mad that I didn’t write it myself.

The Archipelago of Kisses, by Jeffrey McDaniel

We live in a modern society. Husbands and wives don’t
grow on trees, like in the old days. So where
does one find love? When you’re sixteen it’s easy,
like being unleashed with a credit card
in a department store of kisses. There’s the first kiss.
The sloppy kiss. The peck.
The sympathy kiss. The backseat smooch. The we
shouldn’t be doing this kiss. The but your lips
taste so good kiss. The bury me in an avalanche of tingles kiss.
The I wish you’d quit smoking kiss.
The I accept your apology, but you make me really mad
sometimes kiss. The I know
your tongue like the back of my hand kiss. As you get
older, kisses become scarce. You’ll be driving
home and see a damaged kiss on the side of the road,
with its purple thumb out. If you
were younger, you’d pull over, slide open the mouth’s
red door just to see how it fits. Oh where
does one find love? If you rub two glances, you get a smile.
Rub two smiles, you get a warm feeling.
Rub two warm feelings and presto-you have a kiss.
Now what? Don’t invite the kiss over
and answer the door in your underwear. It’ll get suspicious
and stare at your toes. Don’t water the kiss with whiskey.
It’ll turn bright pink and explode into a thousand luscious splinters,
but in the morning it’ll be ashamed and sneak out of
your body without saying good-bye,
and you’ll remember that kiss forever by all the little cuts it left
on the inside of your mouth. You must
nurture the kiss. Turn out the lights. Notice how it
illuminates the room. Hold it to your chest
and wonder if the sand inside hourglasses comes from a
special beach. Place it on the tongue’s pillow,
then look up the first recorded kiss in an encyclopedia: beneath
a Babylonian olive tree in 1200 B.C.
But one kiss levitates above all the others. The
intersection of function and desire. The I do kiss.
The I’ll love you through a brick wall kiss.
Even when I’m dead, I’ll swim through the Earth,
like a mermaid of the soil, just to be next to your bones.

Lines and Love

I just discovered Martha Collins, the poet. Her poems are spellbinding. In her poems she describes scenarios and emotions that I’ve experienced or felt, but could not find the words for, and now that they are transcribed on paper,  I can breathe sighs of relief and feel like all is right with the world again. Do you know what I mean? Well, anyway, here is my new favorite poem.

Lines

Martha Collins

Draw a line. Write a line. There.
Stay in line, hold the line, a glance
between the lines is fine but don’t
turn corners, cross, cut in, go over
or out, between two points of no
return’s a line of flight, between
two points of view’s a line of vision.
But a line of thought is rarely
straight, an open line’s no party
line, however fine your point.
A line of fire communicates, but drop
your weapons and drop your line,
consider the shortest distance from x
to y, let x be me, let y be you.

It’s the Weekend!

bbqHey guys, it has been awhile since the last post, right? I’ve been working on a project that will go through January. I will be taking time  off from blogging to focus on this project and regular work. But before I do that, here’s a weekend post! I’m going to my friend Angela’s for one last BBQ before winter arrives. Guess what we’ll be eating there?

Angela BBQ

Soo yup…I’ll be eating venison later on today.

Here are some great links that I found this week:

Good writing vs. Talented writing.

These parents are really nailing this parenting thing. 

Sorry in advance for these images, guys, but these fashion blogger boyfriends are so hot.

What a beautiful ring.

Such a cool NYC loft!

I do not believe in love anymore. These two were my favorite celebrity couple!!

Crest gives kids healthy-flavored Halloween candy. Their reactions are priceless!

Weird things you didn’t realize that everybody does.

Wow. Did you know AirBnB has made a huge impact on NYC?

Do you think this will actually take off?

The ocean is broken. Very sad read.

Can’t stop listening to this song.

Have a good weekend! And look for new stuff here starting February =).

Are you good at Humblebragging?

Image“The Art of Humblebragging” is a recent post from the site, Boredom to Boardroom, that puts a name to the phenomenon we all know so well. Humblebragging. Humblebragging is a method of self-promotion that highlights one’s accomplishments without appearing too egocentric. If it is done right, humblebragging can do wonderful things in the workplace. According to the writer, the best way to humblebrag is to draw attention to others. So, for example, if you are the manager of a team who just finished an awesome project, the best thing to do is not to congratulate yourself on leading the team to a victory, but to give your team praise instead. And if your project had sponsors that made its existence possible, then praise the sponsors as well. By doing this, you are not only making everyone who was involved feel happy and accomplished, but you are also bringing attention to your work as well.

While I was reading this post I couldn’t help but think about those moms that love to humblebrag about their kids. Doesn’t this sound familiar to you??

“Oh, Jackie can’t do a play date this Wednesday. She has a state competition on Saturday…she won last time but it is always good to practice more.”

“Do you want to bring your kids to my house to study Chinese? My Allison is at a fifth-grader’s level. She can help teach Stephanie.”

“Your kid didn’t make the soccer team? You know, that’s a good thing. Now they’ll have so much more time to improve their Chinese! Well, time to shuffle mine off to the game, cya!”

Have you ever heard someone humblebrag? Do you do it? Now that you know about it, will you try it at work?

Do you get enough sleep?

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This new discovery that confirms that sleep deprivation is worse than you thought has been making the rounds on the internet. Here is a quote from an article about this new finding:

In a nutshell, this new study provides evidence that we need a certain amount of sleep every night, because the brain takes this time to rid itself of toxic metabolic byproducts, which would otherwise accumulate in the brain and impair brain function, destroy neurons — and potentially cause neurodegenerative disorders.

Eek!!! As a very cranky, very sleep-deprived, and very sad-that-it-is-1:30-am lady, I am going to publish this post and then head straight to bed!!

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How I did on my To-Do List

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Hey guys, guess what. I did pretty badly on my To-Do list. I’m so sad. Here is an honest look at how I did. Red stands for “did not accomplish” and crossed out stands for “accomplished”.

  • Get 8 hours of sleep
  • Be kind
  • Do some kind of workout
  • Think about how great life is
  • Think about life goals
  • Stand up straight (partially accomplished)
  • Say hello to everyone
  • Eat 5 servings of vegetables
  • Eat less ice cream. And brownies and cookies. And cake

What an ugly list. Here is what happened. 

Get 8 hours of sleep. I got up super early today to run an errand. Slept at 12am yesterday and got up at 5:30am today. 5 and a half hours of sleep in total.

Be Kind. I woke up at 5:30am, finished the errand by 8:30 (it was a lot more frustrating than I thought it would be), worked from 9-6pm, went to an event until 9pm, and missed my 9:44pm train by four minutes. I had to wait an hour for the 10:44pm train. During the time I was waiting at the train station, I chatted with my mom on the phone. This random guy approached me and said something. I didn’t hear what he was saying at first. I just knew that he was preventing me from hearing my mom. Then I heard, “Are you talking to someone important?” I nodded up and down. He continued, “Is it for business? Is that why it’s important?” I said, “I’m talking to my mother!!!!” and motioned furiously at the phone. He walked away. I was not so kind to him.

Do some kind of workout. I did 8 minute abs and got 14,785 steps on my pedometer. Does that count?

Think about how great life is. Check.

Think about life goals. Double check.

Stand up straight. Only when I remembered to.

Say hello to everyone. I think I got most people, but not everyone. I still get intimidated by some people I admire. Whenever I go to say hello to them, it kind of goes like, “Hhhh…………..” The H starts out strong, but then I manage to turn it into a cough/weird noise because I’m afraid that person might say, “Why the heck is this strange girl saying hi to me?”

Eat 5 servings of vegetables. Nope.

Eat less ice cream, brownies, cookies, and cake. I ate three brownies, a muffin top, and some ice cream today. Major fail =(

 

So all in all a failed day and a failed to-do list. Oh well, I can always try again tomorrow =)

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Do you make lists?

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I read an interesting article about Jack Dorsey’s, founder of Twitter and CEO of Square appearance at a recent event. Did you know that Jack is a huge fan of lists and note-taking? Here is an excerpt from the article:

…the most fascinating bit might be Dorsey’s own use of lists. He told the crowd that he creates notes for each person he meets, building detailed lists of important things that come from meetings with them, or that he’d like to relay to get things done. He also has a “Do” and “Don’t” list that he takes a look at daily.

Jack Dorsey’s daily To-Do List

  • Stay present
  • Be vulnerable
  • Drink only lemon water and red wine
  • Six sets of 20 squats and push-ups every day
  • Run for 3 miles
  • Meditate on this list
  • Stand up straight
  • Spend 10 minutes with a heavy bag
  • Say hello to everyone
  • Get 7 hours of sleep

And the “Don’ts”:

  • Don’t avoid eye contact
  • Don’t be late
  • Don’t set expectations that you can’t meet
  • Don’t eat sugar
  • Don’t drink hard liquor or beer during the weekday

I love to make lists because I have a terrible memory, and need notes like “Do laundry” and “Run report” to remember that those things need to be done. I also feel uncomfortable when something is not done, so once an item is added to the list, I never fail to do it.

But, I never thought about making lists for life-enhancing actions such as “Say hello to everyone” and “Get 7 hours of sleep”. I didn’t think I needed daily reminders to do those, but honestly, it is easy to shrug off the necessity of getting 7 hours of sleep when it is past midnight and there is still work or studying to be done. Jack Dorsey’s method has totally turned my world upside down. What could happen if I started including items like “Stand up straight” and “Don’t set expectations that you can’t meet” on my list? Will I actually do those things?

Here is my list for tomorrow. Wish me luck!!

  • Get 8 hours of sleep
  • Be kind
  • Do some kind of workout
  • Think about how great life is
  • Think about life goals
  • Stand up straight
  • Say hello to everyone
  • Eat 5 servings of vegetables
  • Eat less ice cream. And brownies and cookies. And cake.

TOMS Nepal Boots

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TOMS is a socially responsible footwear and eyewear company that is known for giving away a pair of shoes to a child in need for every pair that they sell. I never bought their original style because I am a shoes-with-laces kind of girl. But I saw these boots online and could not resist!!!! They’re doing a free shipping promo through October 31 and you can use this coupon code RMNFALLTOMS to get $5 off any order over $25.